Many couples spend their spare time at home during their retirement, which is the time when two people face each other again. How to maintain a proper sense of distance is a learning question. YouTuber ライフ, a Japanese mature man in his 60s, shared 4 tips for establishing a relaxed and comfortable relationship with his companions through her life experience in ESSE Online.

The child has become independent and the husband has retired early. ライフ and her husband have started their lives. She pointed out that her husband belongs to nightlife, and she did not insist on cooperating, but chose to follow her own steps. By dividing family affairs and only getting together at home during meals, the couple naturally develops a comfortable sense of distance.

{ 4 tips for keeping a happy distance with your partner

1. Don't be too focused on your ideals and regulations

Many people have the idea that "husbands and wife should be together at any time", but high ideals or unnecessary persistence can often become pressure, and even cause tension in the relationship.ライフ believes: "As we adapt to the flow of life, slowly exploring the way we feel "just-good" in each other, we find a comfortable sense of distance now."

2. Maintaining a suitable private space without interfering with each other is an important secret to long-term relationships.ライフ means that the couple will not interfere in each other's time or space indiscriminately, and will not complain as much as possible. However, she also emphasized that if something affects each other's lives, those who communicate will still directly say: "Not interfering and blindly endure are two different things, and those who should say will still tell the other party clearly."

3. Deliberately create the time to "go out together"

Although each other has private time, ライフ will deliberately arrange the time to "go out together", such as walking, shopping or eating outside. These small shared activities can allow the two to continuously accumulate shared memories and enhance each other's emotions.

4. When the other party is not happy, take the initiative to ask the reason

In a relationship, what you fear most is not quarrel, but cold war.ライフ believes that when the other party is in a low mood, keeping silent will only delay the problem.

She exemplified: "If my husband's face is not good, I will ask "Is there something wrong?" immediately. My unpleasant mood will also tell the other party as soon as possible. She emphasized that avoid letting the negative emotions ferment last for a long time so that the relationship can remain comfortable and harmonious.

ライフ's experience points out that ideal close relationships are not to be together every day, but to know how to give each other enough space, and at the same time, they also care about and support each other at appropriate times. The appropriate distance and appropriate connection are the keys that make couples comfortable for a long time.